Barb Outhere. However, I’m almost forty and I just don’t find the same kind of excitement in playing the games he wants to play. See if there is a home start organisation in your area, they are really good for clubs, organisations, get togethers etc. I always have a good time when I'm with him. You have to do what is right for you, real friends will be there through the thick and thin so the ones that fall by the wayside perhaps you have outgrown the friendship. Tucker July 14th, 2017 at 10:42 AM . If somehow you can find a way to feel more positive about them then you will probably get that back from them, I do think you get back what you give out (just my opinion of course) and if I am grumpy with my kids, they give me attitude back whereas if I can pull myself together to be cheerful we have more fun because I get that back from them. In defense of females who date celebrities, women date men who are in the world they live in, or aspire to live in. Then I wake the babies up, starting with the oldest so she can help me with the others. It could be because of finances, marital discord, or general contentment with how things are. I noticed you haven't posted so I just wanted to leave you a message incase you drop in. To be completely honest with you, I'm afraid of what other people might think about our relationship more than anything. You don't get to try them on and take them back when you realize you no longer want them. Hi Anon, Reply . i absolutely applaud you for having the courage to admit how youre feeling on here, and im glad everyone has replied supportively and not judged you like you probably thought they would. But you're not a child; you're a 29-year old grown woman of sound body and mind. And being a dad is hard. I'm a single parent with two kids 2 and 11 both different dads but as life would have it I'm a single parent. Not sure if you will receive this, but it sounds similar to how I am just now, and wondered how/ if/ hopefully you got through it x . It’s been a challenge already and to imagine multiplying that by two, three, four is frightening. Your friends dont sound much like friends if they are prepared to lose your friendship when you start getting yourself together, maybe they were friends with you because you were needing some support and when you didnt seem to need it any more they felt they werent needed so much? I just don’t want my kids anymore. I Don’t Want to See My Family Anymore. I agree, its sounds like your suffering from depression, have you spoken to your GP about the way your feeling? It would behoove you to count your blessings. we all have times when we get down no none gives you a book when you have a baby which tells you how to love and bring your children up. I hate being around my husband. Allana … 0 0. saraimay75. or "You're going to be alone when you're older and you'll regret it!" When I tell people I don't want kids, they always tell me "you'll change your mind later!" My daughter is 3 and doesn't listen to me or do anything I ask. 13 years ago my mum got a dog and it was the best first dog that could ever be had. About Us, We offered my son $200 for his “birthday party”. You have childen and as you say you don't want them to go into care so you have to start enjoying the life you have with them, so a plan is a good place to start. Lv 7. The kids walk all over me, they are insolent little brats, and I can't stand to be around them. The first time I said it out loud, I was alone in the bathroom at home. I feel terrible but I don't want to be around her anymore. We are both living with our parents right now. If you want it to work out, it will. Ok vent over lol . Privacy, You really must get help, how do you think they would feel if they found out later on that you had said you didnt want them? How often does he visit? at the end of the day no matter what your kids say or do they love you have you heard the saying any man can be a dad but you only get one mum and its true go to the doctors, Hi Anon How can we help anon? I know what people think of mothers who abandon their kids, but I don't care anymore. What should I do? You are a normal and loving woman. I can't say that you'll ever fully regain your fiancé's trust, but you can calm his nerves by telling him you love him, and sincerely apologizing for not being forthcoming. Cheer up, in no time at all they will be all grown up and you will be a proud parent wondering where the years went and how you managed to make it through the fighting and the rowing and the mess they create and the endless washing and ironing and homework all with no thanks at all, being treated like a cafe with a bit of backchat and a lot of attitude, but you will, trust me, you will x. hi, I will never understand people who bring children into the world, and not want to participate in their development. He is 58 years old, and I'm 29 years of age. 4 Answers. No wonder you are feeling like you don't want to be a mum anymore. Their father only pays $250 a month for child support. I'm a single parent with two kids 2 and 11 both different dads but as life would have it I'm a single parent. I knew i just wasnt ready for another baby. Use of this website constitutes acceptance of our terms of use, our cookies policy, and our privacy policy. aintnuthinbutaSHEthang Wed 22-Apr-20 11:50:39. Explain why you don’t want more children. Anyway I hope that helps you, PM me if you want to chat, I am on my own with three and it is hard work with no family and no support so I completely understand where you are coming from. My heart just about popped out of my chest. 4 years ago. It is hard to have such a big age gap with kids i have too. What can I say or do to regain his trust? I know that sounds so awful but that is how I feel. Once I get all of the kids ready I feed them whatever quick meal I can whip together [usually cereal or pop tarts]. But dont give up on them, they need you. They will find them a family that will love and care for them. Though that will not happen in my life. whatever lol Im not even 30 and i feel like im 60. You can help by participating in our "I Support" membership program, allowing us to keep covering Houston with no paywalls. I moved from Los Angeles to Houston about six years ago to put my past in the rearview and get a fresh start on life. Since we started the Houston Press, it has been defined as the free, independent voice of Houston, and we would like to keep it that way. If you guys enjoyed this video make sure you give it a like and hit that subscribe button to join our Little family. So thats the truth i know its not good and some of you probably think im really selfish but that is the way i feel and i dont know what to do about it. It’s an arresting thought for any parent to have, and it can stop you in your tracks. I can see that just from your little crying face at the end of the post. A typical day for me is to wake up at 5 o' clock in the morning, and dress myself for work. It can be a huge support to talk to others who really understand what you are going through. I want to give you a big shoulder hug, my dude. I am a 27-years-old divorcée with four small children ages eight months [through] six years. But boy or girl I'm done having kids. I have told my husband I don't want them, I have saught professional parenting and been seing a child psychologist to try and help me with them, but I my husband is never on board. When you have sorted yourself out and you start to feel better, take a look at what you want to do with the rest of your life. I dont wan them to go in care but i cant take care of them myspef its like i don't have anymore love of life or hope left in my heart. if husband wants one more baby but you dont want anymore,what is the solution? I have sole custody, he has visits on Sunday’s from 12-6. This will allow you to 'practise' going to work with no responsibility and no consequences if you can't manage it. That isn't for me though. Ask Willie D anything at askwillied.com, and come back next Thursday for more of his best answers. Sorry dont mean to sound harsh, but i cant stand it when people say they dont want there kids. The Ask Willie D Archives Houston's Top 10 Hipster Bars, Clubs & Icehouses Top 10 Bars, Clubs & Ice Houses In West U/Rice Village The 10 Worst People at Houston Concerts. My timeshare is paid in full, but I just don't want it anymore Unfortunately there are no good ways to sell or even give away a smaller Raintree contract. Relevance. Please talk to us anon. In an ideal world i'd be married and really be enjoying my family instead now when i see other families at the parkor at school i cry and now im feeling bitter and hopeless. Please dont say you dont want them though, its an terrible thing to say, and you made the decision to have them even though i know not as a single parent. I realised I was lesbian and had been since I was a child. I genuinely like him, but I'm afraid it won't work out because of his age -- he is older than my father. Oldest First. I'm guessing that your friends weren't having babies back then, so that must have been tough and lonely sometimes. Some women exclusively date educators, while others prefer laborers. When I first started talking to him I saw him as strictly a friend. I imagine that long summer holidays seem particularly hard to cope with when you are on your own. My husband has left me and the kids and I'm not coping, My partner doesnt want to support me and kids financially. He is not rich, but he is financially secure. He wrote: "I feel bad but I can't date someone with a child because I don't want to be a father figure. As a parent with 2 children with a life long condition, your lucky to have what you have ( im taking that they are both healthy?) you do sound very down like the other members have said go to your doctors its a big step and they wont judge you they are there to help its a start have you no family to help? You should ask your kids' father or grandmother to take them in, and then see a professional to help you cope with the responsibility of parenting. Deb H's lovely post gives a lot of hope for the future and some good ways to begin to think of yourself and getting your life back on course once you feel a bit better. i know im being really selfish and the kids need me trust me i have really tried but im fed up now. Should I find someone closer to my age or go for it? Could you take your little one to a play group in your area when your eldest is in school? I had friends who were supportive but the minutei started going on courses and said i wanted to look for part time work to make a better life for my kids they abandonned me and they were meant to be christian. Have you been able to talk to anyone about how you are feeling. I rase them my self with no support from either dads (the eldest helps now and visits) with my two year old dad not really gving a damn. I cry all of the time. My husband wants a girl but I don't care if the baby is s girl or a boy. I have strong feelings for this man, and he has told me that he feels the same way. You were coping with a lot and seemed to have so little support. You were little more than a child yourself when you had your first baby. What support have you got Anon? Like "I don't want to do this anymore." I remember once I said ‘I don’t want to live anymore, my kids deserve better than this, I should have never had them and dragged them down with me’ I threw out those words to someone. I now am isolated and depressed. I've been away for a couple of weeks and was just wondering how you are doing now. No one expects or hopes that motherhood will turn out to be so tough but somehow you have got this far and it's clear that you love your kids. It sounds like you have worked incredibly hard to make life better for yourself and your kids but as yet little has changed so I would imagine you are feeling frustrated and perhaps angry and wondering why it all has to be so flaming hard? It’s incredibly difficult when you feel like you don’t want to live anymore, but you also don’t want to die. They were from a place of real agonizing pain. Answer (1 of 10): I found this by typing in I don't want my childrens anymore! Even qualified doctors can't diagnose over the internet, so do bear that in mind when seeking or giving advice. By clicking 'X' or continuing to use the site, you agree to allow cookies to be placed. I know that sounds so awful but that is how I feel. CALIFORNIA RESIDENTS: California Privacy Policy | California Collection Notice | Do Not Sell My Info. I wonder if you know about your local Childrens Centre ? Once you have managed it, and this could take a year or two working up from 1 or 2 mornings to maybe full time, you will be able to apply for a job with a work reference that is well respected in the work industry today and proof that even though you are a single parent, you are able to hold down a position. So when I met my fiancé out at a bar, I was glad to know he was not in the entertainment business. That said it does sound like perhaps you might be a bit depressed? I don't know what to do. We don't have the money or space for a third but in my heart I feel like my family isn't finished. Babies. My husband wants a girl but I don't care if the baby is s girl or a boy. I have sole custody, he has visits on Sunday’s from 12-6. I'm totally loosing the will to live and would rather be dead than have to inflict my daughter with the awful mother that I am. He says he respects my opinion but he just really wants a girl. I don't want my kids anymore ?!?!? I don't want to be with my husband or kids anymore? being a parent is hard but especially if you are a single mother because u dont have that other someone to say 'please take then for five min' u never get a break and i can see how that can be hard so dont beat yourself up,  but i agree that yor symptoms do sound like depression so i also suggest you go and see your GP as they will be able to help you and plus we are all here for you too. I wanted that chance of hope. I'll feel bad if this is another boy and my husband will resent me for tying my tubes . Can you book a GP appointment and have a chat? I fell in love with a woman I knew. i am sure tho that every mum feels like this sometimes, i have PND and sometimes i feel resentful that my life has completely changed yet even though im with the dad unlike you, his life hasnt changed very much at all. I feel like I am going to have a nervous breakdown. They were painful words. Dear GoodTherapy.org, I’m done with my family. Hi Anon, But nothing about my life is convenient because I have four children I can hardly care for. I Don't Want My Man Having Female Friends. Terms, I don't think you are being selfish at all. Join the Press community and help support independent local journalism in Houston. Tell me, why is it when a man breaks up with a woman she acts like she's innocent? See your GP and get some medication, this doesn't have to be a high dosage, or a high dependancy it can be as little as 10mg of something that will lighten your mood and not make everything seem so desperate. There's a 29-year spread in your relationship. I know this because I have had feelings very similar to yours and I believed I was stuck in a situation with no end. Children express resistance to staying with their other parent in different ways. Being in a relationship is out of the question, because what man in his right mind would want a woman who has a bunch of kids? Have you tried talking to your GP or Health Visitor and getting help, does sound like you are depressed. i absolutely applaud you for having the courage to admit how youre feeling on here, and im glad everyone has replied supportively and not judged you like you probably thought they would. I don’t want my child anymore. If not, maybe you could try being good friends. Stef. I hope you find an answer to your dilemma OP, it’s a very hard position to be in. Im at my wits end; ive tried church, working part time, doing short courses and im sick and tired of being lonely having no life. They’re fine as long as I don’t have to look at pictures of them while you watch, or engage with them directly. Even if the two of you were to patch things up, I don't believe that you'll ever feel secure in the relationship because you'll always remember how she played with your heart. I don’t think that there is anything wrong with you. I'm glad you have felt able to share this and wonder if you have had a chance to read some of the lovely replies. They were hard to say. It's been five months, going on six. Does anyone else think they look strange or is it just me? I'm really sorry to share this but if I don't let it out I think I'm going to explode. But at the end of the day it's your happiness that's on the line, not the happiness of others. But the more we talked the more I began to develop romantic feelings for him. I am really sorry to hear you feel like that, I have felt like that too at times but for me, I think that the dad has already abandonded the children, I cant do that too or they would have no one in the world. I don't want any more children - options? Do you feel you missed out on things back then? I used to be a very happy and positive person. Careers, Please come back and talk some more :hug: we all have times when we get down no none gives you a book when you have a baby which tells you how to love and bring your children up. We have tried punishments, groundings, chores, etc., over the years. (I’ve been uncomfortable around kids since I was a kid.) I don’t care about your kids. Hi I'm really sorry to share this but if I don't let it out I think I'm going to explode. My husband is not really very helpful but he tries to be supportive to me. I am a certified government inspector, and I own my own business so it's not a situation where I'm after his money. I guess I'm not asking for advice -- just venting. Please let us know how you are doing. Just to let you know that people here are thinking of you and would like to help if we can. The constant looking after, with what sounds like no time off has got you so exhausted that you feel you can no longer cope. It is worth fighting to make things right for you all again. This is a very sad letter. I stress out a lot because I feel as though as long as I have all these kids I will never get ahead financially or socially because they take up all of my time. "She's complained how our youngest doesn't need her anymore but I can't afford to support a bounty of children!" A child under five may appear clingy, cry, scream or pretend to be ill. But I just don't want anymore kids Gosh!!! My wife wants more kids… and I don’t! particularly the older one, why dont you spend some quality time with them and get to know them aa people, not just as your children, maybe go for a weekend away? Answer Save. I don't even want them. But with local journalism's existence under siege and advertising revenue setbacks having a larger impact, it is important now more than ever for us to rally support behind funding our local journalism. My cousin helped me get a good job, I bought a condo in a nice neighborhood and made new friends. You are depressed. :hug: to you! take care xxx. I'm also financially set. Staff, People have said its my own fault i should never have had kids and i really wish i never had them. Some women mostly date bus drivers and supervisors. take care xxx, Hi In many cases older men provide much more stability and fidelity in a relationship than younger men because they've already made all of the mistakes and sowed their wild oats. Deleted profile. I had one planned, had the money, printed out the directions (it was 2 … So when I don’t want to do it anymore, I yell, “Story Circle!” and they all come running, favorite books in hand, to listen intently to whatever princess needs saving, treasure needs finding or animal needs rescuing. 14 Answers. I feel like for the first several months, he was just a basket of screaming, crying needs with nothing at all being given back. It's your life. I am beginning to say to her things I feel terrible about. 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